tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5474512451356632700.post646461750587233492..comments2013-01-18T10:23:19.024-08:00Comments on An adventure every day: Is a friend a friend if she or he doesn't tell you the truth?eastsideartschoolhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/00463769110074544384noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5474512451356632700.post-3359536703514790202011-12-12T19:47:17.407-08:002011-12-12T19:47:17.407-08:00Thank You Karen and Angela!
I love both of your c...Thank You Karen and Angela! <br />I love both of your comments.<br /><br /> Especially @Karen...the....Shakespeare said "To thine own self be true." And it is very good advice. People who are true to themselves will generally welcome opinions from others even if they are not what they want to hear. <br />and the sum up of "Honest but tactful." I like that a lot I will think about this from now on before I say anything :) <br /><br />@Angela: "The kindest way to tell me that my home is a mess is to pick up a broom and start sweeping!"..The action not words is a wonderful idea! I will also think of this process..<br /><br />Thank you for the comments!! I really like hearing what people think about my posts..I guess its just my nature of curiosity.<br /><br />P.S. Miss both of you! wish you still lived nearereastsideartschoolhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00463769110074544384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5474512451356632700.post-48854011852245218522011-12-12T14:01:39.321-08:002011-12-12T14:01:39.321-08:00When Christ taught the masses, he often performed ...When Christ taught the masses, he often performed miracles to give them food. He knew that people learned better if their basic needs are met. It's interesting that when He asked Peter after the resurrection if Peter loved him, Peter kept saying, "Yea, Lord, thou knowest I love thee." Christ then replied, "Feed my sheep." <br /><br />Sometimes if you are barely making it, the truth, especially if is a truth that you struggle with, is hard to hear. I believe a true friend will serve you with a heart full of love and compassion. If there is a point you need to have pointed out, they will do it in the kindest, most serviceable way they know. The kindest way to tell me that my home is a mess is to pick up a broom and start sweeping!<br /><br />To sum: love first. Follow that Spirit and all will be well.Angela Binghamnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5474512451356632700.post-74458679488908772592011-12-11T18:49:34.908-08:002011-12-11T18:49:34.908-08:00Shakespeare said "To thine own self be true.&...Shakespeare said "To thine own self be true." And it is very good advice. People who are true to themselves will generally welcome opinions from others even if they are not what they want to hear. They will value truth where ever it comes from. I think the crux of the situation comes down to tact, and empathy. There are people out there who only want those around them to make them feel good and tell them things they want to hear which is definitely a failing.(King Lear anyone? Another Shakespeare) The other side of that argument is when someone is brutally honest to someone who is struggling with something and it really ends up hurting their feelings... what will make the difference in that situation is tact. Another issue with that is sometimes your truthful opinion may be... well wrong. And in that case you hurt someone needlessly. <br />Be honest, it truly is the best policy, but do it in a kind, loving way if needed. And it won't always need to be! Many times it will be ok to be snarky and fun, but there will definitely be times when a sensitive ear and a sensitive word will be needed to avoid hurting feelings... for someone who may be really doing the best they can and could get hurt by a casually made derogatory comment. (Being hurt doesn't excuse them if they harbor hurt feelings and get angry though!)<br />So my opinion summed up? Be honest but tactful.Karenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17446361131963024598noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5474512451356632700.post-74004419542428423952011-12-11T10:54:53.592-08:002011-12-11T10:54:53.592-08:00I agree, sometimes hard to hear. In the longer ru...I agree, sometimes hard to hear. In the longer run, it s the best plan.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com